It's Friday, December 28, 2012, the last official weekend of this year! Can you believe how fast 2012 skipped by. Through all the bumps, hills, highs and lows, we made it! This weekend I'm going to relax with hot chocolate and comfort food (it's going to snow here in DC, so the timing is perfect) and chart my new path for 2013. How do you plan to spend the last few days of this year?
Blessings!
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Friday, December 28, 2012
Friday, July 20, 2012
Imagery Is Powerful
Imagery Is Powerful
I’ve seen some distasteful comments on websites and read
some very disturbing things that prompted me to write this post.
This week the Internet was all abuzz with pictures of Beyoncé
and her adorable 7 month old daughter, Blue Ivy. But things quickly took a turn
for the worse. Vicious comments about baby BI’s facial features filled the
comment sections of sites that posted the precious picture of Beyoncé and her and
Jay Z’s little chubby-cheeked beauty. What was even more disturbing (to me) was
that black folks were making pointed comments that made me shake my head. I
copied some of them below.
“She has nappy hair.”
“I hope she doesn’t
end up with Jay Z’s big lips and nose.”
“Damn, her nose is
already wide. I hope she don’t end up looking like her daddy.”
These are just a few of the horrible, mean-spirited things people
were saying about Beyoncé’s and Jay Z’s beautiful daughter. Who says stuff like
that about a baby? Anyone who can do that is obviously a very sad person
inside. And deeper still, this vitriolic banter sheds light on an even more
troubling problem. The issue of how we view beauty in the black community.
Black folks are still carrying around a heavy amount of
plantation luggage. There are many in the black community who still believe
that dark skin, wide noses, full lips, and kinky hair equals ugly. Instead,
they strive for lighter skin, slim noses, moderate-size lips and straight hair,
because these are all signs of perceived European beauty. That standard of
beauty is especially hard for black women. A chocolate brother is all the rage—Idris,
Morris, Lance, etc. But a chocolate sister? Not so much.
I remember when the striking Sudanese supermodel Alek Wek
hit the scene back in 1995 with her smooth, onyx-colored skin, lusciously full
lips, deep-set eyes, and toned, slender body. The reaction in the world of
fashion was one of fascination and intrigue. But the talk in the black
community was downright hateful. Black folks panned her “African” features as
though this beautiful woman was the ugliest thing they’d ever seen. I remember
hearing brother’s say things like, “She’s way too black” and some sisters say, “She
needs a weave to hide those naps.” Those remarks both angered and saddened me. I
was so happy when Oprah had Ms. Wek on her show and said, “If
you'd been on the cover of a magazine when I was growing up, I would have had a
different concept of who I was.”
Imagery is powerful.
Growing up, my father used to always tell me how beautiful
my chocolate brown skin was. I didn’t appreciate his praise back then, but I certainly
do now. My father was letting me know that I was beautiful and worthy, and he
was also preparing me for a world that wouldn’t always be as welcoming. It was
especially hurtful to me that I would be rebuffed by other black people. Brothers
and sisters alike have told me, “You’re pretty to be dark skinned.” Yes, idiots
have actually told me this to my face, as if dark skin couldn’t possibly embody
even a hint of attractiveness.
Women of other ethnicities spend large amounts of money to
get what the majority of black women have naturally—tanned/brown skin, full
lips, round hips, high cheekbones—it’s all so beautiful! A flat nose can be
just as beautiful as an angular one. Kinky hair can be rocked with a fierceness
equal to its long, straight counterpart. Beauty is truly in the eyes of who
beholds it, and it’s felt in the way each of us embraces what they have. It’s
okay to have hair that’s kinky or straight. It’s okay for skin to be dark or
light. It’s okay to have African, Asian, European or any other type of features.
But it’s not okay to uphold one standard of beauty as the yardstick by which
all other beauty is measured. We (human beings) are so much more than that.
Humanity is simply man’s love for his/her fellow man. Once
we embrace our shared humanity (love), we will embrace the beauty in each of
us. These aren’t just pie-in-the-sky words I’m speaking. This is real talk! I
pray that as the millions of Blue Ivy’s in the world grow up, they will look in
the mirror and embrace what they see, and they will live in a society that
nurtures it.
Thursday, February 16, 2012
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Tuesday, January 10, 2012
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